He Gets Me.
A couple of weekends ago Steven and I went to a birthday picnic with some of our new friends from church. While the guys played some soccer, us girls sat around chatting (surprise surprise). We (of course) talked about babies and pregnancy and all that goes with that. At one point in the conversation a few of the ladies said, "You know, I just wish that just once a man could experience pregnancy so that he would understand what we have to go through. They just really have no idea."
That got me thinking..and I'm going to take this opportunity to brag on my husband. So - warning: if you're not into mushy gushy... you should probably walk away now :)
I thought about the statement that was made and I have to disagree with it completely. I am almost 34 weeks pregnant and Steven has "been through this" with me every step of the way. Granted he cannot experience the physical changes that take place during pregnancy... but never once have I felt as if he didnt understand what's happening to me.
When I am on the verge of an emotional breakdown because dinner isnt turning out the way I anticipated, he takes over in the kitchen and reassures me that its perfect just the way it is. He tells me to have a seat and that he'll finish up.. and then he talks about how wonderful the meal is. When my bangs wont stop falling in my face and I'm frustrated to the point that I dont feel like I can even go out in public b/c they look so ridiculous (yeah..pure pregnancy hormones there) - he grabs a clip and pins them back and says "there.. that's better. Now they're perfect."
Because of my pelvic pain it takes me a few steps to get it together after I've been sitting for a while. So, when we get out of the car at Walmart and I'm hobbling and walking like a granny, I look at him and apologize saying "I'm sorry I walk like a granny" ...he grabs my hand to help give me stability and says to me "No worries baby, we've got nothing but time!"
When our sweet baby wiggles about inside of me, he asks me what it feels like and so I try my best to describe to him and demonstrate on his arm with my hand what it feels like when she kicks or flutters. He gets just as tickled as I do when she goes on her little kicking tantrums and his hand goes immediately to my tummy. Even at night when she keeps me awake, his hand is right on my tummy so that he can feel what I'm feeling.
When I wake up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom & struggle to get out of bed (again, pelvic pain), he'll sit up, hold my hips and help "push" me out of bed so I dont have to work so hard and hurt to get out. When I come back to bed, he throws the covers back and puts the pillow back between my legs so that I dont have to struggle with it. When I cant get comfortable and I wiggle about, without a word he starts rubbing my back because he knows that will calm and comfort me and help me rest.
He reminds me of God's faithfulness and how blessed we are not only to have had such an easy pregnancy, but for the opportunity to be Annie's mommy and daddy.
So while Steven will never be able to experience the physical part of pregnancy, he gets it. He sympathizes with me and prays for me when I hurt and celebrates with me and praises God when things are good! He laughs with me when she wiggles and he holds me when I'm on the verge of a breakdown. He completely gets me.
We are still 6.5 weeks away from the birth of our baby girl, but I look forward to it because I know that I'm not in this alone. He is 100% supportive in our choice for home and natural birth and encourages me that I we can do this. I can go into this thing completely fearless because I know that my love will be right there with me every step of the way.
He has already been such an amazing daddy to our baby Annie by the way he loves and cares for her mama...I know that even after delivery, while I'm going through the postpartum phase that he will continue to be an amazing help to me - as a daddy and as a husband.
I am so honored to be having this life experience with him by my side. I love you Steven!
That got me thinking..and I'm going to take this opportunity to brag on my husband. So - warning: if you're not into mushy gushy... you should probably walk away now :)
I thought about the statement that was made and I have to disagree with it completely. I am almost 34 weeks pregnant and Steven has "been through this" with me every step of the way. Granted he cannot experience the physical changes that take place during pregnancy... but never once have I felt as if he didnt understand what's happening to me.
When I am on the verge of an emotional breakdown because dinner isnt turning out the way I anticipated, he takes over in the kitchen and reassures me that its perfect just the way it is. He tells me to have a seat and that he'll finish up.. and then he talks about how wonderful the meal is. When my bangs wont stop falling in my face and I'm frustrated to the point that I dont feel like I can even go out in public b/c they look so ridiculous (yeah..pure pregnancy hormones there) - he grabs a clip and pins them back and says "there.. that's better. Now they're perfect."
Because of my pelvic pain it takes me a few steps to get it together after I've been sitting for a while. So, when we get out of the car at Walmart and I'm hobbling and walking like a granny, I look at him and apologize saying "I'm sorry I walk like a granny" ...he grabs my hand to help give me stability and says to me "No worries baby, we've got nothing but time!"
When our sweet baby wiggles about inside of me, he asks me what it feels like and so I try my best to describe to him and demonstrate on his arm with my hand what it feels like when she kicks or flutters. He gets just as tickled as I do when she goes on her little kicking tantrums and his hand goes immediately to my tummy. Even at night when she keeps me awake, his hand is right on my tummy so that he can feel what I'm feeling.
When I wake up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom & struggle to get out of bed (again, pelvic pain), he'll sit up, hold my hips and help "push" me out of bed so I dont have to work so hard and hurt to get out. When I come back to bed, he throws the covers back and puts the pillow back between my legs so that I dont have to struggle with it. When I cant get comfortable and I wiggle about, without a word he starts rubbing my back because he knows that will calm and comfort me and help me rest.
He reminds me of God's faithfulness and how blessed we are not only to have had such an easy pregnancy, but for the opportunity to be Annie's mommy and daddy.
So while Steven will never be able to experience the physical part of pregnancy, he gets it. He sympathizes with me and prays for me when I hurt and celebrates with me and praises God when things are good! He laughs with me when she wiggles and he holds me when I'm on the verge of a breakdown. He completely gets me.
We are still 6.5 weeks away from the birth of our baby girl, but I look forward to it because I know that I'm not in this alone. He is 100% supportive in our choice for home and natural birth and encourages me that
He has already been such an amazing daddy to our baby Annie by the way he loves and cares for her mama...I know that even after delivery, while I'm going through the postpartum phase that he will continue to be an amazing help to me - as a daddy and as a husband.
I am so honored to be having this life experience with him by my side. I love you Steven!
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